If you feel like you would like to apologize to your W then do it IMO. Check with the DB coach first but I don't see how telling her sincerely how sorry you are for hurting her is a bad move.
She will probably go off on you, but you know what? that is ok. That is a good thing. Let her slam you till she runs out of oxygen and you accept it. It will give her a chance to vent.
When I called my wife that night we had just spoken for about 1/2 hour about nothing. When I hung up I felt like I wanted to get it off my chest so I called back. I really expected to tell her my apology and hang up. I expected nothing. She stayed on the phone with me for a few hours and then called back the next day. I am not saying that is going to happen with you but all you want to do is clear your mind and get it off your chest.
Expect to get hammered by her
Expect her to get angry
and
Expect nothing
If she is angry she still cares.
I knew my M was in trouble when my W stopped arguing but I did not know what to do. I crawl into my cave and ignored it like it would go away. I did not have the tools I have now. Well, it went away, in a Penske truck to Oklahoma.
Make sure you comment or "like" the article on the DB FB page grr said that the more people that do it the more article they post. I plan on reading it again and I plan on checking out the site at least once a day for new material.
