Every poster here has heard some variation of all the same things ...
I'm done. I don't love you, and I don't think I ever did. It's all your fault. If you had ... It won't matter what you do/say, it's too late. I never should have married you. You never ... You always ... I need to be free. I need space. I'm never coming back.
... and the list goes on ...
My point here, is that if Jack, HB, Butterflymom, Coach, imLin, BND or Lotus, to name a few (not to mention the entire community on the piecing board), had made their decisions based on the words they were hearing from their WAS/MLCers they would have had much different outcomes.
Just because he says it, doesn’t make it your truth. It doesn’t even necessarily make it his truth for more than the moment he says it in. And yes, I know you’ve been hearing it for years.
Running out to replace H makes the new R about the R not about the person you are with. If I promised you that if you were patient your marriage would be restored and, with work, be better than ever ... would you be interested? Of course I can't make those promises ... but your answers should tell you something.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
