I'm sorry. I am a wreck. I am crying, then stomping my feet and screaming I don't care, then crying, and so up and so down...it just hurts...it isn't anyone's fault but my own. Thank you both for your replies...I just need to get some food and some sleep, I guess. Thank you again.
3) What are you doing for yourself so that you can be both emotionally and physically healthy as you are dealing with this?
My advice to you right now is to really focus on yourself for the time being. You can NOT control what your BF is doing right now. The only person who you can control is yourself. The sooner that you learn this, the better off that you will be.
BITS Denver
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You can't control the situation right now Resilient. You are wanting the magic elixir that will solve the issues that you are dealing with right now.
There isn't one.
You have to take care of yourself. That is the only thing that you can control
You are in Last Resort Technique in my opinion. Please read about it in Divorce Remedy book.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Weekends and holidays are very slow on the board. Don't take it personally if you don't get a reply instantly.
Don't send him emails. Don't contact him in any way. If he is "dark" then he doesn't want communication with you. You cut any chance of getting back together with him when you send him emails, pictures, etc. Don't tell him you love him, etc. It does not work with a walk-away. I promise you that it pushes him further away.
You must take your focus off trying to fix him, b/c it won't work. Put all your time & energy on building a good, healthy life for yourself. In time, perhaps he will be ready to talk and listen.....but not now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
