Lost, hurt and scared ...

[MeMyselfandI]

Weekend update. So, I went to my qualifiers over the weekend and won the championship. Good news over with first. Saturday, during one of my breaks, I called my S to see what he was up to. He was in tears on the phone and told me he and D were supposed to be at hockey soon and they didn't know where H was. They were at home alone and H hadn't told them where he was going and S was very upset that they were going to be late for hockey. I calmed S down and told him to call H and find out where he was. Again, this stuff kills me but I think I'm making progress. I vented to a couple of friends who were with me, went for a short walk and thought about the situation a little. I realized, I could not do anything about it. Yes, it bothers me that H is treating S & D like this and yes, it is completely out of character but I reacted the only way I could, I tried to help S figure it out and that was all I could do. I had done my part and I let it go.

To be honest, I never realized how empowering it is to just let it go. Normally, I would have picked up the phone or sent H a "not very nice, friends-off" kinda text about the situation just so he knew I knew. Not healthy!

So, just before I'm getting ready to go on the plane to fly back, I get a text from H asking what time I land again (have told him 10 times but MLC brain is very forgetful)! I tell him and he lets me know D has girls hockey and then a little pizza party after so he will drop the kids off after that.

Then, here it is ... wait for it, he asks how my competition went. We have not communicated on anything other than business/kids for so very long. One of my goals was to have him contact me regarding something else and although this isn't quite there yet, (b/c the contact was kid related and his question was just added onto that communication) it is a baby step toward that goal for me. Anyway, I told him I won and he responded with congratulations.

When I got back to town, I went to the rink to see if S wanted to come over early. H was sitting in the stands with a few of the hockey parents and they all asked how I did when I walked in. Lots of kudos and congratulations and I sat for a few minutes. H talked to me for a couple of minutes about S's broken hockey bag and a couple of other things. Mentioned that he was flying out of town tomorrow and would try to get the part needed for S's hockey bag; however he wasn't going to be in the city. I think he is going to meet OW's family or on a trip with her and he may have been trying to see if I would fish for information. I didn't bite, just suggested that we could likely order whatever part was needed online. I then said that I assumed S didn't want to come early since he was with his friends so I was going to go home to unpack. I got up, said good bye to the gang and off I went.

I'm home now, all unpacked and very excited that the kids will be here soon.