Divorce or Hope?

[ninelives]

Thanks SW and S and C. It really is unpleasnat this limbo crap but you are both right. Its up to me to take as much control as i can. All things do point to a breakdown at some point but that could take months or even years. She said she was unhappy with me for years but never had to go through all the other stress that she is facing.

Her BIL hating her and not allowing her to go to his house thereby not allowing her to see her sister where she used to always go for a drink. Her older son not really responding to her because he cant believe what she has done and is doing.

These things must put tremendous stress on her. For that matter not having me to lean on as she has done for the last 20 years but I guess she has someone else to lean on and maybe all the stress they are going through together is makeing their relationship stronger. But that also cause it to be too much someday.

I am so confused. Obviously their relationship must end if there is ever to be hope for us again. Do i have the stones to wait it out while life passes by?

I know that I must GAL and try and be happy but I can see the writing on the wall. I dont think I will ever be trully happy without my family back. I really believe in the family unit and cannot believe my kids have to go through this. They are resilient but not really.

Cant wait for this winter to end so i can get back on my bike which saved me last time she left. I put on 8000km as a novice rider. It really helped me deal with this.

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