Question about the Men that left

[crushednstuck]

Scylla,
I don't think you can make any generalizations, but in light of what Jack said above, I'm sure my W believes she put up with all she could before walking away. When she did, she gave no consideration to counseling or any thought of restoring the M. So if women are more patient before walking, it could be argued that they are more "done" when leaving.

If I had a chance, I'd take it and I'm doing the soul searching and finding out now what I really stand for what values are important to me.

I'm not one to throw lumber around, but generally, if you spend more time here ^^^

I'd actively start to look elsewhere for love.

And less time here ^^^^

10+ years of being ignored, seldom spoken with/to and treated like help

You might figure out why he did this ^^^^

Then you can make peace with it, forgive yourself, and take your emotionally healthy self into your next R with whomever; spouse (hopefully) or not.