You did what you knew you needed to do in the way of walking the journey, and managed to come through with your marriage; God did, indeed perform a miracle within your marriage.
Yet, in the new marriage that came out of the fires of the crisis; as you and your husband have learned; the work never stops; it continues.
As long as God is put first, all else will follow and blessings will abound.
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Biggest advice is patience and trust in God. He will get you through this one no matter the outcome.
You are absolutely correct. You followed HIS instruction; given through your intuition; NEVER think your methods were "unorthodox".
There was a time for you to back away, and a time for you to come forward, because you listened to Him; you knew these times.
God has His Way of doing things; and as long as you obey Him and His direction; you KNOW things will come out all right.
The above statement you made is key for bringing anyone through anything; He never puts anymore on you than you can bear at any given time.
I've read the threads; including your husband's and I can see where your husband DID go through a MLC; the reason he was able to talk about it; was the fact he was able to lay his pride aside; you can't say that about most people.
He also struck me as a very outgoing person; and one who was willing to be open about not only the crisis; but his mistakes within that time.
God works in mysterious ways; His wonders to behold; God brings so many good things out of bad situations.
The few who are willing to speak of their experience confirms MLC as a true life's trial...and people are not just imagining things.
You trust in the Lord for the outcome; you take the journey laid before your feet to change, growth and healing; and you HOPE your MLC spouse does the same.
Each one facing themselves and each other, it takes TWO to bring the marriage back together if both are willing to do the work.
Been there, too.
May God continue to light your paths and bless your marriage beyond your expectations; as the future; which is a bright one, shines before the two of you.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
