Honestly, the push and pull is soooo tiring. So is the walking on eggs.

Sometimes I just get mad and tell my H to stop making comments that irritate me. Then I start pulling away. It does get him in line, I notice. But I don't know if that would work for you.... you know your H well.

Or else you can agree with him - cheerfully! something like - Yes, you know me well! But take mental notes...

He's miserable inside, you know, and that is why he gets irritable.

Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go