You should start a new thread or your own thread....I don't mind you posting on my thread but people won't see it, you know.
I think you did well, and it seems like your W is confused. Well, they all are. Give her space, and time. At this point she does not want to send the wrong message - they all say that too. That is normal when someone has said they are not interested in being together anymore. The point in DB'ing is that we start from that point and work on not making the situation worse, detaching so we can take a deep breath and plot our course, and improving ourselves. Then perhaps we once again become the person our spouses loved and that will attract them back. Or maybe it won't work but we will become a better person anyway, and will regain our self esteem and be able to cope with the world without them by our side. Either way, it is for the better, as compared to where we are now.
I suggest that you be open with your W regarding your friends coming to dinner in your home, ask her if she would rather not share your situation with your friends and if so, what should you do.
Ty not to over analyze W's comments for now....perhaps as time goes by, and you have more interactions, you will start seeing how she is thinking.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
