Bolt tunring again

[angel61]

I know! And we expect more when things are going great..... instead of being happy and content that we achieved a small step, we want more!

I myself am in that place right now. When H left for vacation, we were on a positive note. He called a couple of times and our convos were light but cheerful, and long (not like before when we would have a 2 minute update) but I still find myself jumping when the phone rings and getting disappointed. Yesterday evening I was writing a text to H and stopped myself in time.

I was thinking to myself, just like Bolt, that it is actually really hopeless, that H is gone too far, but again....

That is why it is baby steps.... these things don't turn around in a few days. From what I have seen on the boards, it takes months, years even.

So I tell myself:

Concentrate on keeping the lighthouse lit....the house happy and comfortable, appealing to our lost spouses....a refuge for their troubled souls....the way home smooth and paved. It is a journey, and one day they might just decide to join us once again, for good.

Hey Boltie, ya reading along? agree?

I think your W is testing the waters. She already is seeing you, but is hesitant. She joins in briefly, is not yet connecting, backs off a little, thinks, and then will come back to walk with you some more distance. Be patient!

We are all in this together.

BITS!