Not Sure Which Way to Go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Since yesterday I have been being a little more direct. She sent a couple of texts and I only responded to one because she asked "how the kids were" and I replied "they are in good hands :)" There was one conversation today where she was just more or less trying to make small talk. I listened, but when there was an opening, I tried to let her go 3 or 4 times until finally she let me go.

OK,there shouldn'tbe anytalk other than about the kids. And that would be a need to know basis. No small talk at all.

downandout, read the history of my sitch,
I too had to deal with the phone call at night with the kids.
If she wants to call and talk to them that's OK, When the phone rings get you S5 to answer let him talk and you leave the room while he talks to his mom.
There's nothing you can say now that will convince her to come home. Trust me.
If the kids are asleep then don't answer the phone.
Remember, you are the cause of all her unhappiness. So not being with you will make her happy. HA.
I lived that too.

You wanting to be on the phone with her is you settling for crumbs. Don't you deserve more? Things will improve once you start increasing your self esteem and confidence.

What are women attracted to??? Soft men who beg fpr the attention of them? No
A strong confident man who knows his self worth and is strong enough to handle things.

Start dressing better, working out and know this- No matter what happens you will not only survive, you will thrive.

That's where Im' at now,

Are things any better than they were before?

My wife came back only after she saw me moving on without her. I was/am happy and she is no happier today than the day she left. How can she? This women was a family oriented W and a great mom. Now she's responsible for breaking up a family and her mothering skills are par at best.

When my W motioned to "try" I was too excited. I was thinking about all the wonderful things we as a family would do.
I Didn't make her work for it. And I didn't have a solid plan.
Don't think for one minute that dating her again will be enough to reignite the spark.

I received the second bomb this past xmas.

It hurt again but this time I was able to get back my confidence and self esteem much quicker.

There's too much to list what happened to make her come back but it's all here.
My latest sitch was called "Should I tell he move back?"
Google that and it will give you more insight.

Oh, as for the being friends comment.
I don't know about you but I go out with my friends and have them over for dinner and share my life with them.

I told my W I have plenty friends I don't need any more.
My W thought we can be friends through this,
like her parents are.
that doesn't work for me.
I am currently working on the D papers. I know I will have to be the one who files b/c my W is uncertain of what she wants.

See, I want a a confident women in my life too. Her flip flopping is unatttractive to me and I deserve a great W in my life.
I know I will be in a wonderful R with or with out her.
It appears it will be with out her.
And..........I am happy with that.
Stay strong, I check back later.
gr8