Based on what Monkey has told me...he spent a lot of his childhood sneaking around to do the things he wanted to do.
His Mom would do stuff, like search his underwear drawer for cigarettes.
So, he just learned to be sneaky...and he got really good at it.
So, I'm thinking that being sneaky is Standard Operating Proceedure for Monkey.
I of course, sense him being sneaky, and think, if he's not doing anything wrong, why's he being sneaky?
He just wants his privacy and independence...but he learned that in order to have those, he had to be sneaky.
So, now I'm wondering. Should I talk to him? Tell him that I feel insecure about our relationship when I sense him being sneaky? That if he would tell me, "Hey, I'm going out with A" and just be open and honest about it, that I'd feel safe?
That my goal is for us to get to the point, where he can feel like his privacy is protected and respected by me?
Or is this one of those things, that I have to prove and not talk about?
