I had a chance to see my son yesterday and he wanted to make sure that his mother and I would be civil to one another at his wedding. I told Brian I would do that for him. His mother keeps sending texts and calling me. She is angry because she can no longer control me and she I believe realizes she has made some huge mistakes by not trying to work things out. I also believe she sees that life is hard on the outside. Her biggest complaint when she calls was about my working so much and not being there emotionally for her. I have changed jobs and now work every other week and all day hours now with no swing shifts. The key that I have learned is to listen and hear what is going on and not blow stuff off. I believe my wife got tired of talking and when she remained silent I assumed all was well. What a mistake that was. I do not know if we will be able to mend the fence because so much has happened. By going dark I learned a lot about me and how I may have done things differently in my life. We have been separated for six months now but my wife had dropped the bomb in September 09. Will see what happens. Bobby O
