my h spent the day with my s (who does not really know we are separated, as my h is away alot of the time anyway) when he took him home tonight and then left, my s got very upset after much coddling, he finally told me he was sad because his dad was not spending the night with us i let him call my h (i was in a panic because i have never seen my s like this) and i heard him tell my h that it is ok to be away when he plays a rock show, but if he is in the same state, he should be with us my h asked if he could pic s up and take him to the mall i said yes s calmed down h called from the mall and said they had a talk (my s is a very young 8) he explained that we were separated and told him that sometimes mommies and daddies use this time to see if they wanted to stay married or get a divorce he said s took it very gracefully and actually leaned across the table to pat my h's hand he said he didn't mean to tell him, but he felt the time was right and had a feeling he should i think he used his judgement and did a good job when he took him home, my s was in a much better mood h gave me a big hug when he said goodnight and that he would see us in the morning i guess there is nothing to decipher from this, i just wanted to share i feel a little better, as he probably knew more than we thought and at least he is not wondering or expecting anymore just sort of numbish tonight but had a blast making some new friends today..so there was that goodnight
