This is our 2nd marriage for both of us. Been together since 2002. Married in 2004.
Together we have 7 kids. Still have one at home.
Due to the job market I started a new career in 2004 after being in IT for over after 23 plus yrs. Been a struggle financially. New career is starting to gain traction.
Have dealt with the normal blended family issues, kids and money, philosophical differences.
We both work. She was a correctional officer in a womens prison for over 15 years... Not a fun job... Was very draining. Now and admin...
Finances/Budget has always been a struggle for her. Not real good with money. Very impulsive.
W recently diagnosed bipolar.
W is obsessed with computer games.
Have had a feeling that W was havving affairs online. Confirmed this weekend. W left the computer for me to do some work on. Kept herself logged on to facebook. Not sure if it was intentional or not. Not sure how long this has been going on. If I where to guess probably at least a year now. Looks like she has been seeing several people.
She is very protective of her cell phone. Says that is none of my business what she does or who she texts. Also very protective or secretive on what she does on the computer.
Has been driving me crazy...
She is seeing a therapists. Not sure what she is telling the Therapists. Doesn't want me to go. W says it is private.
Really want her back...
She is my my best friend...
I am in this for the long haul...
I am looking for all the support and advise I can get right now...
W took her whole situation to a new level last night. W and 17 yr old Daughter got into a huge shouting match... That is a whole situation itself with daughter...
W threaten and started at least the attempt of suicide... 17 yr old daughter called 911...
W in a facility right now... think under the 72 hour watch deal...
I'm so very, very sorry to hear about your W. I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
Unfortunately, this is going to be the long haul for you. You need to work on getting your W healthy first.
Is she medicated for bipolar disease? How long ago was she diagnosed?
I'm just so sorry for what you are going through now. Keep posting. Hopefully there is someone on this forum who has experience with this type of situation.
Reccos, I feel your pain. I’ve has similar experience with family members SIL, MIL, AUNTIL sadly there seems to be a genetic component. I fear W has shown some of the same issues, but pigeonholing is too simple for my sitch.
Take some solace in she is safe and receiving professional help at least for the next few days. Hopefully a little longer to get her meds in balance.
LIS is right there is a long hard road ahead.
We'll be here when you can post.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Have been suspicious for sometime now that wife is having flings through facebook. Not proud of it, probably committed the cardnial sin of snoping.
Was able to get into her email and find out she is sending various pictures and poses to males that she is hooking up with on various online dating sites, social networks etc...
Approached w while she is still in the facility.
W said the marriage is over. Wants out hasn't been happy for awhile. Has no plan in place to leave.
In fact said that she has no problem if we even share bed...
W is Bipolar... W acts like she is going to commit suicide. W is put into a facility for 72 hours. Confronted W with info that I found on email and internet.
W said marriage is over, wants out, hasn't been happy for awhile. But... Not sure if she really is ready to get out... Driving home the conversation was using words like us, ours, etc...
Not sure if she is really over everyone that she met online. There seems to be one who is her SenSe... Asking questions about the male brain...
But not sure how intimate they are...
So.... Looks like I have to start back at the beginning...
All suggestions, recommendations, support and guidance are welcome...
This sitch seems like it is a tough one. It's hard to get feed back when I think no one know what to say. But don't think you are alone here. Everyone is reading and I am sure everyone is wondering what to tell you. Just keep posting here. it is important for you and your well being. Sending you a hug!
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
