Not Sure Which Way to Go

[downandoutintn]

Since yesterday I have been being a little more direct. She sent a couple of texts and I only responded to one because she asked "how the kids were" and I replied "they are in good hands :)" There was one conversation today where she was just more or less trying to make small talk. I listened, but when there was an opening, I tried to let her go 3 or 4 times until finally she let me go.

A little while ago, she called and I thought she wanted to tell the kids good night so I answered so she could tell them. Here is how that conversation went.

W: Why are you acting like you don't want to talk to me.

Me: I'm not. You said you wanted more space and that I had overwhelmed you so I am giving you the space that you asked for. You know how I feel and nothing has changed. I am actually listening to you for once and giving you what you ask for.

W: She said well my phone is about to die so I wanted to make sure you had this number in case you needed to call me. (she is working a second job to afford her new apartment) I will call and talk to S5 in a little while to tell him good night.

Me: Ok well I will talk to you later.

It has now been over an hour and S5 has been asleep for a good 30 minutes.

15 minutes on the dot after the phone call I get a text message.

W: Just want you to know that I'm sorry if I hurt you through all of this DAOITN Hope we can always be friends.

I have yet to reply and have no plans of replying. I have pretty much cut out initiating contact with her for about 2 weeks but I have not done what I have done today as direct as what I did today. I have tried to end conversations but would keep going. This time I made it known that I didn't want to be on the phone. (even though I really did and I was really down this morning because I have totally missed her all day today)

Does it finally sound like I maybe on the right path or does it sound like I may have been too harsh? Just to be honest the more I think about things in the M, I have let her run my life and make decisions for way too long. I thought I was being a good husband and building her independence by doing so. Now she is so independent that she doesn't need/want me anymore. I guess this behavior could be seen as a 180?