iwllbd1, thank you for your response. im sorry you're in an bad situation too. I honestly feel like im a rollercoaster. My mind in consumed right now because i know he is with her right now, with what are they doing. That he's sleeping in her bed tonight, etc.... There has been very little communication between us since he left in dec. If we text its only about very general subjects. Never anything personal. I am trying the LRT technique but kinda screwed that up yesterday when i found out he was going to see her. BTW she lives out of state. I just cant get my mind off the fact that they are together at this very minute. Thanks again for writing.