Im not a BITS guy yet, would like to join as your sitch is very close to mine and Country song.
My heart goes out to you man. There is very little that can be done at this stage and you are doing the right thing.
My W is not yet living with Om but he is there all the time as he left his wife (with 2 babies BTW)
At this point i think that we are the OM because their heart for now is with their new men. How long that will last is undetermined.
Stats show that when people leave marriages for affairs , that they dont last but they may last longer than we would like obviously.
The OM has the advantage at the moment because he has the blueprint for what made her unhappy with the marriage and is probably doing all he can to make sure he provides her with what she wants for now. But this is the fantasy stage and I dont think it can last forever.
YOU GOT to GAL and mean it at this stage. My w texts me all the time as well and wants to be my friend which will validate her decision. I am not going to be there for her in this capacity.
I WILL NOT be demoted to the role of friend while she is sleeping with a scumbag.
I KNOW its difficult Islander ( BTW, I live on a small island in ONtario so our sitch are very similar) but What choice do we have at this point.
NINE ( possibly future Bit member)
BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
