grr, i feel horrible today. how do i stop thinking what he is doing with her? I know he flew to be with her for the next few days. Things like this happening makes it hard to have hope. You say let him see the woman he fell in love with, how? he isnt here to see it. i know i dont deserve to be treated this way. but i have so much guilt about how i couldve prevented this from happening. this isnt the first time H has left or had other EA. In both instances H claimed the OW was "nice". I know i wasnt NICE all the time but it was because of his behaviors and truthfully just sometimes i had no excuse. I just didnt treat him nice. Not always, occasionally. I just want so much to have a chance to fix our marriage. But all i think about now is him being with this OW and what there doing and how hes not home with me. So painful. Do they come back? Also does anyone have info or personal experiences with there spouses being a serial cheater or sex addiction?