So what happened that changed his mind and he didn't go home?
Seems as if he's been very busy with a social life in the 20 days he's been gone.
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Im still hoping to work things out but is my hopefulness prolonging my grieving process.
I wouldn't say it's the "hope" that is giving you the grief. You just need to look at the stitch differently.
He's a very young man who is not wanting to act like a M man. Don't put too much of your hope in wanting him to work with you to make the M survive. The work will be up to you.
Begging, pleading, crying, clinging.....all this stuff turns a man off so badly that he will run from you. Do not expect him to be concerned or to give in to your heart ache. Yes, you would think your H would care....but you have to deal as if this man is not your H.
Leave him alone. Focus on improving yourself. When you get to the place that you don't need him to be happy....then that's when you'll see changes made.
Working out, getting a new job, etc. is great. Keep up the social life and doing things you enjoy.
I know you don't see how this would make a difference in your M, but it will.
Don't contact him. If he calls you....keep it short and sweet. Don't ask him anything about his life and don't tell him anything about yours! Don't even tell him about your changes.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
