From what I've read from posts of LBH's, it is very common to think of many things you could have done in the past that you want to do in the near future, if given the opportunity. I believe that comes with the big "wake-up" factor you've experienced. That in itself is good, but the mistake some make is telling the WAW. The LBS has such a strong desire to communicate to his W that he sees all these things and intends to make positive changes in whatever may be the case.
The problem in telling your W these things outside of the right time....would be her seeing it completely differently than you do. Most WAW's have the attitude of "too little too late" and sees this as a means of you trying to fix things so that she will be happy and life will be normal again. Many men see it as if saying, "Is this not what I'm suppose to do...fix things?"
It is very easy for a WAW to feel pressure by the LBH, and he may have very good intentions and is blind to how it would be pressure.
I see where a lot of LBH's want to do much talking to the WAW. Not always a great idea.
Continue to find happiness within yourself and resist giving her lists of what you want.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
