Zen, I wish I had more for you than this. My going dark was more for me and my piece of mind.
W was contacting me with short angry texts and requiring me to be available to her agenda. She was pushing buttons, I normally would have angrily responded to. Not reacting negatively is one of my 180s. Going dark permitted me to disengage from the button pushing and begin to control the pace of the interactions. Gaining my own time gave me a chance to GAL and detach. It seems to be working W is asking questions about what I am doing.
(rant begins) I hate FB. I think FB contributed to my sitch. I think W became envious of all the fun things her FB friends were doing and that contributed to her dissatisfaction with the R. Instead of communicating with me the fun things she wanted to do, she began the processes to the sitch we (her and I) find ourselves in. (rant ends)
Do you have a FB page? Can you post all the fun things? How do you think your H would react? I know this isn't really being dark, but it is not communicating directly either
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
