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That's a great plan, Bolt!

I'm sorry, sweetie. I know you were looking forward to it but like you said, tomorrow is another day.

You know what? I'm real proud of you. You stayed off the roller coaster. That's was probably the hardest part of this. You're not letting it break you. THAT is what will win this race. Good for you, Bolt!

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LIS, it bothered me for about a minute, to be honest. But then I thought about the day and how great it was that she asked how my day was going.

I take that as a good thing. The massage can wait.

I want to build up her love, not dump it all on her at once. Besides, I like the courting part right now. WOW, is that against my character.


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Not your new one Bolt.

Don't ever forget the old Bolt is dead.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

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You mentioned you liked the chase before. Make sure you like the courting and NOT the chase. smile

It's also good not to dump it on her all at once. Read conversation #2 in our book. It's ok for things to bother you. You ARE human.


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jtb - dead on again!
LIS - true. But I consider this, at least, courting. What I mean by that is that today was a good day so I don't feel like I set something up, had expectations and then had them dashed.

I still want to do something nice for her but it can wait. I'm definitely still going through the book.

As we speak...well, not AS we speak but in between typing...


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I always find that there are reasons for things happening the way they do.... perhaps it was not the time. It will come. When it does, don't forget my spa suggestion!

Go slow in your courtship, savor each moment, let her anticipate...


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yep!
Tonight I let her come home and simply enjoy the silence. She wanted to finish her book so I let her.

She made it a point to tell me to come to bed later. I know it only meant to sleep but it was the thought anyway.

I do wish we had a little bit more of a connection tonight but she was at work all day so it's ok.


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having fun planning the massage with the kids tonight.
We're setting the downstairs bedroom up with candles and everything.

Going to be as less pressure as possible smile


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Very nicely done Bolt.

What a difference a few days make huh?

Keep simple and keep it fun!


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I THINK that he got that idea from the divorce busters page on facebook 2Step!
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