Recovering after a same sex affair

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Thanks, Figg. That was the same advice I was given. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't going towards a downward spiral here.

I do agree that it was her decision to have the affair. It is her decision to want to move out and have space.

You are right. She needs to know what this means.

I am still not sure what to do with our tax refund. I am not an accountant, but I guess I could somehow figure out her portion of the return and mine. I could then offer her portion. If not, I could take the strong stance that we pay off debts as we agreed to do for the last few years. That one is a little sticky,as the situation is a new one, so priorities can be changed. It just ticks me off that we are so close to our dream of being debt free for this to mess it up. By the way, this has been a bigger priority of the wife.

Thanks again, Figg.