One way or another, this is something along the li9nes of what I want to tell her:
"Beckie"
Right now there are 5 things that I want:
1. First and most important, I want you to be happy with yourself and feel good about your decision no matter what they are. One thing I can offer that might help you get there, is something I learned a little while ago:
"My poor decisions were based on illusions I believed at the time. My better decisions are based on realities I recognize in time."
2. I want us to continue marriage counseling to work through our insecurities and develop our marriage skills.
3. I want us to complete the immigration process so that I can be right there with you to support you, in ways that work for both of us.
4. I want us to start planning to have a dream wedding ceremony this summer. I not only wildly underestimated the importance of this to you, I also felt ashamed that I could not afford to give you what I felt that you deserved.
5. I want to legally adopt D14. I want to be the kind of father to her that neither you nor her have ever had.
What do you think? I feel these are vitally important things for her to know, I'm just not sure how and when to present them.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
