After a long conversation with a family member of mine, they expressed the need to detach incomes. If my wife wants me to pay for half of day care, I would be happy to as our son's parent.
If she wants to move out and get her own place for the time being, I will support her need for space and allow her to.
In the mean time, we split our incomes and our joined expenses. Her paycheck can go in her solo account. Mine into my solo account. We put no money in our joint account for now. I will continue to pay for our house and bills, as well as our son's needs when he is with me.
She can pay for her apartment, half of day care, as well as her other various living expenses, and her half of our son's needs.
My parents think I could also further this, by telling my wife that I should take her off my cell phone bill and car insurance that I pay with our joint account.
In the end, my wife will simply not have enough money to make it on her own on her salary, but her Dad may help a little.
Is this the right thing to do? I feel like this is what people do who go through legal separations. I don't want to take the downward spiral towards anything legal or divorce. Is this good detaching? If I want her to move away temporarily while she thinks and come back when she is ready, do I still detach in this way?
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
