H takes all the blame - why?

[angel61]

Starting a new thread as I need some help here, I am trying to think about some of the more unique aspects of my sitch and seeing if anyone out there can give feedback.

I am starting to doubt if my H really has MLC. Maybe he is more of a WAS? Triggered by the A? although I know people would say whatever it is, it is a still alife crisis, a catastrophic one.

Contrary to what I see in many cases here of MLC, my H now has accepted ALL the blame for our sitch. He seems bent on exonerating me (and OW) of blame and piling the guilt on himself. I am not sure how to approach this, I know he is justifying the sitch and trying not to make people around him feel worse than they are already feeling but it is also abnormal. At first I was just too glad that he started looking into himself; now I am not too sure.

At first my vengeful self told him that now that he knows he made the mistakes, he should suffer the consequences of his mistakes and not expect others to suffer it for them. He accepted that and I could see that he tried; but the burden was too heavy.

The part of me that is now turning around and loving him unconditionally saw that he was suffering, that he is carrying a heavy burden.

Last Sunday I told him that I wanted him to be happy and started showing to him that I have accepted that it may be with or without him.

As I go along my journey, more insight comes up. I started this post thinkng of asking advice from everyone on how they perceive my H's taking on the blame; and what to do, as I type I am starting to think of what I should do.

I do not think I can let him go on thinking that it is all his fault. As they say, it takes two.

What I don't know as of this moment is how to do it.

Friends, let me know if what I am saying makes sense....