Recovering after a same sex affair

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As mentioned in our last couples therapy, my wife will be looking for her own place to live (hopefully for the short term) while she figures some things out. She also just took a full time job starting tuesday that will pay her some. the trade off is daycare costs now that she will not be home for our baby. luckily, she gets a great discount for daycare through the school system.

before everything came out, my wife and i were really scrapping by on my solo income. living paycheck to paycheck. i had told her that i would be working on getting a promotion at work (hence last week's interview), so she could stay at home. she wanted to return to work to pull in at least something to help.

so now with her new job, she might be pulling in $1600 a month while daycare costs are $700 a month. so the offset is the $900. this is the money that we was going to get our head above the water if we had chosen for her to go back to work.

yesterday, my wife said that she wanted to talk to me at couples therapy about me putting in money to cover some of the cost of daycare. now i don't mind helping out to pay for my son, but didn't she just add this new expense of a new apartment to live in, since she feels she is overstaying her welcome at her brother's place.

i feel like we were already scrapping by without this apartment. now she wants me to chip in money i don't have for daycare, so she can use her new paycheck for this apartment and some living expenses. it seems crazy to me.

in the end, i did tell her that i respect her need for space right now, and will support her decision to move out. she said that her father was going to help some. as far as the finances go, can i reasonably ask her how much her father is putting towards that apartment and how much and where her take home pay is going before i agree to help with daycare costs? after all, we are still married. just seems odd to me. anybody else have a similar situation? if i had loads of savings, i think it would be different. given our financial situation, it seems crazy to me.