When I let go of what I'm,I become what I might B

[Bolt]

2step - dude, I like where this is going. You guys are reconnecting and she is curious. GREAT move avoiding the R talk. It's tough, isn't it?

What I try (emphasis on try) to do in those situations is remember the times when we would talk when we didn't have this cloud of separation around us. I wouldn't even think of asking some of the things I either do (when I'm not DBing) or think of.

If I keep that perspective, it goes back into simply letting it happen mode. That takes the pressure off her and lets her open up as well. NOW the thing that you have to do DIFFERENT is use the love language that she is accustomed to. Say things like, you sound happy or reiterate that she's funny or clever or smart.

You would be complimentary but not smothering...(something I'm learning about as well...)