I still want to make this work

[ninelives]

Country I have been following all your thread and I think Denver is giving you excellent advice.

IF she still has you every day to fall back on and essentially talk to you like a girlfriend , then what is she missing in her life. She has it all.

At some point and im at this point, this no longer an affair. Its out in the open and the affair is now the boyfriend and is the person they want to be with right now.

Will this be the person they continue to be in "love" with?
Only time will tell but YOU have to start RESPECTING yourself and not give her the power to have it both ways.

I KNOW how to tough it is. You cant believe that she has possibley fallen in love with someone else and fallen out of love with you but her actions for now at least indicate that.

You have to back away and let her fall on her face and then you have to be strong enough not to let her come back too soon of for the wrong reasons. Or she will do it again.

I would have bet my life that my w would not have gone down this path but reality is staring me in the face and it is for you right now.

Im not trying to be mean or to take away your hope but sometimes hope can be a KIller when it is not held in check.

She doesnt need to be contacting you everyday about trivial things about your daughter. That is her way of keeping you in check. It feeds her and makes her feel better about what she is doing. IF her ex husband is ok with it , then it must be OK in her mind.

The reality is that you have lost her for now and maybe forever so how are you going to deal with it.

BE strong Country, it hurts like hell and consumes your every thought but try and replace it with what you can control and you w is not something you have any control over anymore. Not now anyway.