There are so many more resources for you on the "Mid-life Crisis" board. I think you will get a lot more help there. Even if she isn't in MLC, there is a lot of good information there about "standing" for you marriage without being a doormat and such, cake-eating, etc. It is a long journey, and a lot of patiences is needed. I have been doing this for almost 4 years. I have not always been good at DBing, I have made huge mistakes, but I have changed myself in the process which is the most important thing here. I have had huge slip ups, but I am human.
Tell us more about your situation. We are here to help!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
