World Came Crashing Down

[irishblessings]

Hopeless -
So very sorry to read about your situation. I think Alb gave the best guidance - there is DEFINITELY a difference between "reacting" and "responding". Sometimes I sense from your posts a "hurry up and fix this" kind of feeling. I think you MUST take a step back and take extra good care of yourself and your babies. HE is in need of a lot of work only HE can do. Detaching a bit more will give you some much needed breathing room. There is a really great book (an oldie but goodie) - by Dr. James Dobson called Love Must Be Tough. I wish I had read it the first time my H left his senses. I think it would have guided me to handle things much differently - in hindsight now I think I accepted WAY too much in the name of "trying to save my family." I think my family is paying a price for that today.

Just my opinion - but you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.