Originally Posted By: Lotus
You are doing great! I think it needs to be said that LRT can help a wayward to miss you, and start coming around, as in the squirrel analogy. But it will not rebuild a relationship. It is essential, especially when the wife left because her husband treated her badly, that he 180 his behavior and actively be nice and loving, as Denver is doing. I have seen some people have such a fear of pursuing the spouse, that they LRT all the way to the divorce. And then they wonder what happened.

You cannot build a marriage on GAL, and showing no interest. Somewhere, if the time is right, you have to reverse course and build a life together. Marriage is two people who do things together. Not ships that pass in the night.


Well said Lotus. This has been my experience exactly. LRT has seemingly given me a chance to save my M here... but I did change course when I saw that the time was right.

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Denver


M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce