Now that I have told H about my desire to see him happy and to let go, and we are in a holding pattern for the next 2 years while we wait for conditions to become more stable....

I wonder how I am going to act now.

How am I ging to DB. Should I be friendly? Could I initiate convo, calls, etc. because we are now friends? Do I let him take the lead and just take my cues (example if he is mad I will just stay away).

Drawing the line between pursuing, and being friends is hard. I know any overture is seen as pressure, so I really have to walk a thin line. However, the effect is me walking on eggs, and also running out of interesting conversation topics, as everything seems to fall in the "unsafe" topics bucket.


Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go