It's 12:30 am here. I have to get up at 6:00 am but I'm so angry I can't sleep. H was supposed to help me move tomorrow. I have a ton of boxes (75+) and some furniture to move to the new office. Moving was HIS idea, he wanted my office out of the house because it takes up so much room. I have no employees or co-workers so it's just me. I did get a friend to help with her pick up truck and my sister is driving 2 and a half hours from out of state to help me. So 4 of us doing the moving. The boys are at their mom's house and even if we did have them this weekend, they wouldn't help unless they were paid (don't get me started on that!).
The XW calls at 6:00, she has a family emergency (a pretty bad one) and asks H if he can pick up the boys from her house tomorrow and take them to baseball tryouts at 11 am and pick them up 1:30 pm. An hour from where we live so that's 10 am to 2:30 pm tomorrow. Right when I'm moving. What does he say to her? YES. How horrible her crisis is and that she's leaving at 10 in the morning to go out of town. Her weekend with the boys. Of course he can get them and sit at the game. Did he talk to me first? Did he ask me what I'd do with my obligation to move? No. Did he even think about me in this scenario? No. The XW is remarried, she has an H and many local friends that could help her out tomorrow had H said no, that he had another obligation. He could even call the kid who lives down the street and ask him to give the boys a ride. But why do that when this is the perfect opportunity to ditch helping me move? He hates moving. The 3 moves we've done, I did all the packing, planning, moving, a lot of the lifting, finding help, etc.
So here I am again, ditched. On the bottom of his priority list. Me and 2 other women moving boxes all day sweating while he's sitting at a baseball scrimmage in the shade playing on his blackberry and relaxing. Did I mention I have a hernia? Or how embarrassing it already is that I have a 2 teenage boys who refuse to help do anything and now my husband won't even be around to help. When he pretty much forced me to move my office out!!!!!
I just want him to care about me. Why is that so bad? I'm so tired of not mattering.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
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