Hi Teena, Sorry it took me so long to respond. Answer to your question - No, I didn't ask her to move out. When she started talking about her desire that we separate I told her in no uncertain terms that NO WAY was I moving away from my children, my home, my dog, my neighbors, everything I loved and had worked for. If she was so intent then it was on HER to do it, and to deal with telling our daughters. So that's what she did and it's been a mess ever since. She can't afford it and is causing big $$$ problems for us both, has devastated our girls, bewildered her family and all our friends, and caused continual pain and confusion. But that's what a WAS in a MLC will do . . . . it has nothing to do with being rational. She is acting purely on emotion. It is up to me to be the rational, clear-thinking adult while she goes thru this process. It's a dirty job, but somebody's gotta do it.
As to FB, I have pretty much bowed out of that scene . . . . I don't go on the site anymore because she LIVES there now and it is too painful to see her posting about her life all the time. Last year she was really reckless - posting very personal stuff and making many people upset, but she seems to have gotten the message about that, finally. I don't know about your H, but with my W it seems to fill some sort of need for acceptance or affirmation of her crazy behavior. So I put up with it and say little, and pray a lot.
