yeah, just not sure what that means still but I am trying. She is going to be in England all weekend Friday and return Monday so I will have kids this weekend. We are heading down south to Garmisch Germany for some skiing. Should be nice weekend with kids.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Well this morning was a HUGE blowup in our marriage counseling session. When I say HUGE and mean GINORMOUS.
All was going ok then I was asked what I thought and I told her and the counselor that basically.... I feel like I am in a game and just being toyed with. Well that ended up with my wife going on full Offensive and long story short, she is leaving in June, needs to seperate to gather her thoughts and she re inforced that it does not mean divorce.
To me, it is the beginning of the end. So she exploded with basically the same things she has been telling me but BOY O BOY was it an eruption of biblical proportions.
I am at work now and still sweating from the fear and hurt.
Being military stationed in Germany I have to start paperwork for her and the kids to return early from our Assignment. I had the paperwork at home, I had just been delaying the inevitable, well after our Counselign session, we drove home, I went upstairs and came down with the "early return" paperwork. I told her to fill it all out so I can get the ball rolling for her June departure. I guess this means I finally broke and get it.
I had been holding those papers with a glimmer of hope but today that bubble certainly burst. When I get home today after work, I guess we can discuss in a more calm manner what and how she plans to get settled. Since she is moving to a place with no job, vehicle or place to stay. Also no place to store out 18 years worth of furniture and "stuff".
Lots is discuss and I only want a few items from our house. Mostly my junk that she would just throw away or sell anyway.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
OK, so I just talked to my wife and reinforced what SANDI2 told me to do. I told the wife I want to cancel our counseling sessions and stop this relationship talk every week with counselor. I want to make the remaingin time worthwhile and enjoyable as possible. So with that. I am going to see if this time without any further counseling we can move in a better direction. My wife and I both are going to move forward with individual counseling.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Well another day come and gone. why must life be so difficult?
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Well, my wife is on her weekend trip to England and I have the kids. She returns on Monday. I hope she misses me while she is gone.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Just have fun with your kids! I know, the same old line, but it is the truth. All you can control is yourself. The amount of fun you have this weekend is completely up to YOU!
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
We just got back from movies. Going to have a junk food night... Video games and chillin!
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
