In cases of S or D, then being a friend may be the only option left. When things are so raw between a couple, then even friendship seems out of the question. If they can find their way back to kind of "liking" each other enough to throw the friend word in there....that's sure better than hating one another forever. But if you're going to live with her....just make sure she doesn't confuse you with one of her girlfriends.
I think my wife wants us to be friends, and according to her, no more than friends. At least I have an avenue to work with. "Just try not to blow up this opportunity", I keep telling myself. I have three months or so left of us being under one roof, so I need to pull myself by the bootstraps and get with the program. Of course, it's easier to say all this than to actually do, so y'all are welcome to quote what I just said as a reminder when I backslide or get discouraged.
My wife has shown that she wants to be just friends by:
A. Flat out saying over and over again throughout the separation. That to her, I'm not her husband and she is not my wife, and that I'm only the father of our son. B. She tries to make sure I have a roof under my head while I am jobless and financially tight. C. She was concerned enough about our son's ability to have a good relationship with me by bringing him to a child psych. I'm not sure if this can be considered a sign of friendship or something else, but I'm listing it here anyway.
Sandi, I think even in a separation or divorce, especially the latter, there still can be a balance of being a husband and a friend. I guess it's about playing your cards right according to each situation. What I need to do fast is regain my composure and visibility as a husband and father, because I've been playing this friendly roommate deal for too long. I need to regain my respect, and if she sees it, that would be awesome!
