M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I'd just have the stuff ready to go at home when she got there.
Done deal.
You going to ask her again?
"Hey, remember this morning when I asked if you wanted a massage? And remember how you said, yeah that'd be a grat idea? Well, ummmm, just making sure you remembered. Cause you still want to do that right?"
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I wouldn't remind her. She knows. Less talk, more action. talking might even put forward the message that you are not sure, and we don't want that, right? Bolt is confident!
Let her wonder....Just go and set it up!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
Saw the previous page - the fact that she's been texting you shows that she has you on her mind!
Gosh, just attended a couple of meetings and look what I've missed. Gotta love these boards....
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
The excitement of my night is does Bolt get to give a massage??!!
I know it's slow torture, sweetie, but you're doing good things!!! And look at it this way, at least you save on the hot water with all the cold showers you must be taking
well, she happened to actually call before I got on the boards.
No biggie. I did ask if she wanted me to set things up downstairs and she said she wasn't sure how she felt about it.
Dangit! LOL!
Oh well. I still may do what you all said for tomorrow because I did say tonight or tomorrow. I'm simply not even going to bring it up tonight and gauge her mood tomorrow.
Like I said, seriously, no biggie. I like the lot of chatter today and my work is making me feel better.
Thanks to my BITS!!!
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
OH and I did think of this before I even re-asked her. I knew we were having a great day. I almost thought it best NOT to do the massage. I want to take this slow and make it a bit more organic. One step at a time.
It is unfortunate ONLY in the fact that both my girls are having sleepovers somewhere else.
Save that one for the future some time.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
