please help on what i need to do.

[Navyguy]

It is an extremely fine line that we walk in balancing being there for our kids and contributing to guilt/anger in our W's. I know I am still working on it, and quite frankly I doubt I'll ever figure it out. My M.O. is that if I want to talk to my kids, I'm going to pick up the phone and call. Talking to your daughter only 2 times in the last month? I know she's only 3 and probably not too into talking on the phone yet, but that's crap IMO.

If W asked my opinion on schools, I'd give my opinion.
Definitely don't tell her you don't care.