why do you think it's interesting? that after all is the premis of dbing isn't it? get a life for yourself, make yourself happy, improve your life for you and IF they come back (or the r improves) well that's just a bonus? of course the hard part is believing that everything will be ok and you can be happy no matter what...all you got to do is decide to be.
If I'd have tried to explain this to the scared girl I was back at the begining of my path, that scared girl would not have believed that by focusing on herself and making herself happy, and getting herself a life would improve her relationship. She was under the false impression that if she loved her husband, she'd put him first over herself.
It's been a long journey to realize that by filling my cup to the point that it overflows and splashes others is the only way to go! Versus, draining my cup to splash others and then not being able to splash anyone including myself.
That's the biggest hurdle all newcomers have a tough time getting over and most of us don't realize jumped it until we find ourselves on the other side ... then the light bulb goes off ... This stuff really does work!
Keep those postives coming ... you truly are an inspiration!
