For the last 18 months I have taken everything he said, listened to what I thought was valid and tried to change it. Even before I knew about DB.
How did you try...?
Not to be facetious here...
Did you change for you ?
Or to please him ?
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At this point, if he starts in on nasty, I have to, for myself, tell him he can't talk to me like and at least leave the room.
There is nothing wrong with boundaries....
They are essential to protect ourselves...
Think about what you say and how you say it.
You TELL him he can't ?
Schidt, that's a challenge to an MLCer.
OR do you say , I will no longer tolerate that ...
There is a difference there.
The part about boundaries that you have to be ready for, is to enforce them, or else they become an empty threat....
Kinda like Scotland Yard, used to not carry guns...Stop or I will yell Stop again !!!
Maybe....
I have decided to not engage in these discussions anymore. Whenever they occur, I will walk away from you, hang up on you, and be unavailable to you until I can be addressed reasonably.
