Keep... Moving ... Forward...

[Denver_2010]

Yo Denver, after your help in my thread I went back and got caught up on your sitch. Crazy to see how far you have come, you sounded just like me at the beginning! Good work, you give me hope.

LOL... Country... I was a COMPLETE and utter mess. This DB stuff does work my man.

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Denver

[Denver_2010]

Looks like I'm going to Buffalo 2Step. I'd love to come over to NJ and meet ya!! too bad us BITS can't hook up on FB or some other social site. But look... I guess we gotta understand what potential consequences DB is trying to avoid. Too bad... I'm making so many great friendships here!

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Denver

[Denver_2010]

Denver,

I like your style. The card trick was very good!

It is a stroke of luck that Gram died right now. Or maybe she planned it that way. Nothing like a funeral to pull people together and remember the importance of family. i'm not kidding! And you are handling it beautifully by being supportive and letting your wife and MIL come first before your business.

Maybe you could find some time while in NY to visit Niagara Falls, or some other nice weekend getaway with your wife. Something that will replace the memories of nice OM with nice Denver. You don't have to battle OM. You have to win your wife. He will fade from her mind and her heart if you are in both places.

Thanks Lotus. I think that it was a bit of a gamble and I probably shouldn't have made it. It certainly wasn't the 'safe' thing to do. Luckily it seems to have paid off. whew!!

W mentioned something about us going to Niagara Falls. I'd hate to go all the way out there and not see that! I think that a nice getaway is a great idea!

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Denver

[Denver_2010]

Continued success Denver! Wishing I had what you had. Keep up the great work. What are we going to do when you leave us after you've gotten your M back?!

Not counting my chickens quite yet Gypsy. I realize how lucky I am to have this chance though.

Oh... and I'm not going anywhere regardless. I'm going to stick around to continue to help pull the rest of the brother/babes in the sh!t through it!!

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Denver

[Denver_2010]

Ok, OM is going to be VERY, VERY dangerous right now. It is of paramount importance that you play your hand like there is a billion dollar pot at stake. You can do or say things that can draw your W in or do or say things that will send her back to OM. This time, though, he'll have the heat turned up.

So... you know that impatience thing that comes up sometimes? Don't let it burn you. (I probably should take my own advice). This is not a straight line back (see Bolt) and a few stumbling blocks will litter your path you along the way. Watch out for them. You want your W and your M. Remember that. Even during the frustrating times, you want your W and you want your M...

Thanks LIS! You are right with all of that. I'm still struggling with patience. That's why I was kicking myself after giving my W the biz card with the note before she called me. I thought that my impatience had just bit me in the a$s. I gotta keep it in check.

I'm not so worried about OM right now, but I recognize that he is still lurking. I think that, like others have pointed out, I am competing against myself. And, as you have pointed out, I really, really need to maintain the NEW Denver at all times.

I thought about the 'plan' for piecing and reconciliation that you brought up the other night. I'm not sure that i have a specific plan. But, this is what I think:

1) I am SO excited to begin that process and to start showing W that she has the H that she has always wanted and deserved. I'm just really excited to do get going on that. And I have no doubt that I am that person now.

2) I am very, VERY motivated to not only get my W to commit to our M again, but to get her to completely and utterly fall back in love with me. I haven't been motivated to do this with a woman since college.

I think that this is a good start?

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Denver

[Bolt]

that sounds like an awesome plan, brotha.

That's exactly the same path I'm on and both are very exciting!

Please, let's remember this good feeling for when there's a down part (cuz we know there will be one or ten)

[Denver_2010]

Debbie Downer?

How about Larry Level?

You have heard of the term "rollercoaster" around here?

I hope you have, the emotional ups and downs of being an LBS.

The biggest downs, come after a rise of good expectations.

Up, up, up, up, up....Dooooooooooooooooooooooooown.

Lower than low, and most people struggle to climb back up again and wonder why they are even bothering. And alot of those are from our own making.

I am not saying that's the case here, not at all. It all seems great.

You level out that rollercoaster, you level out your expectations? The roller coaster is just a train ride, with some dips and crests.

That was all man.

Stop scaring me Jack! LOL...

I know that I need to be cautious. I do. It's my nature though to approach things with a lot of confidence though. I just think that so many goals we want to reach in life are more likely to occur if we approach it with a 'can't fail' attitude. That's how I approach things. I can't help it.

The downside though is that the letdown of failure can be a lot worse.

I guess that I've always accepted this as a risk that I'm willing to take.

I will move forward carefully though Jack.

Thanks again.

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Denver

P.S. I still like Debbie Downer better!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I understand Denver.

Advice comes from expereince good and bad. I have fallen from great heights in the past. I'd have you avoid the pitfall.

"Sic transit gloria mundi"

The whispering slave had its purpose in the chariot. : )

[angel61]

[quote=Denver_2010][quote=lostinscared]
Ok, OM is going to be VERY, VERY dangerous right now. It is of paramount I'm not I am competing against myself. And, as you have pointed out, I really, really need to maintain the NEW Denver at all times.

I like that concept - competing with yourself! Its true, sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Its not the OW really!

Keep up the good work Denver!

[♪CS♪]

Hey Denver, I think my question earlier got lost. You seem to be in more of a pursuing mode now, what triggered this change in approach?