wow!!!! my kind of conversation, sorry i'm coming to it so late
she said yes, she wants your touch, plain and simple
that being said, DO NOT MAKE IT SEXUAL if she is not ready that will turn her off faster than freddy krueger in a nightie
if you can see that she wants more (when you are in bed, perhaps) i would give a slight signal believe me, she knows them all and we hate rejection
to answer your question "But what is needed for a woman to feel touched?" tho it is different for us all, for me it's the little things he does during the day, when he really sees me and really hears me that is huge for me when he grabs a guitar (in your case pen) and spontaneously serenades when i see him close to our son but really the big thing is when i feel like he sees who i am and hears what i say that doesn't happen anymore, but when it did it i was so touched and it was a huge turn on
women and men are so different you get turned on by what you see we get turned on by what you say and do
when the urge comes (during your massage) and it will quell it batten down the hatches so to speak let her just feel that you are loving her without wanting anything in return
