Hello DF, So sorry you find yourself here, but you came to a good place. Post often, read other threads for ideas. Your posts will be slow to appear at first. This is a moderated board.

Validate what your W says to you. Apologize for the feelings caused. It is very difficult to continue to be angry with someone who is agreeing with you.

Detach so you can distance yourself from the anger and hurt. If you can project calm, loving, happy, the anger and tension will all be Ws. She may calm down also; at least you won’t be escalating the tension by remaining calm.

You are ahead of my sitch. My long term goal is to begin MC. I have many small steps remaining to get there.

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Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill