Quote: The problem always becomes that by meeting all the needs of the LD woman, those woman actually began to believe that the husband has seen the light, he has adopted his FEMALE characteristics and now enjoys the marriage from HER point of view. They think WE have changed to speak their love languages. Now all is WELL! Nothing could be farther from the truth!!!! HD men ALWAYS need sex, ALWAYS, as in FOREVER!!!!
Hey Cemar,
Try to remember it always works both ways ie the HD wife feels exactly the same as you do alright?
You said: "I want to see letters from HD men that have COMPLETELY FRIDGID BITCH wives, where they have employed all the techniques of SSM and this board, where the wife is not much of a willing partner."
I always wince when I see you refer to your wife this way. You seem to do it often. You seem so angry that I wonder if you can ever reach a state of peace with her.
My question is this: To what extent have you explained your unhappiness to your wife? For example, would you be willing to have her read this board? If not, why not? Does she know that you are totally miserable in your marriage?
In the past, you've said that you and your W never fight. This fact alarms me. If you are angry enough to call her this name (FBW) then it seems to me you two should be fighting all the time. Anything less would be very unhealthy.
The term Fridgid Bitch is to me the best term for my NO DESIRE wife. I know the politically correct term is ND or LD. I refer to her this way on here because I tink there is a big difference between Low Desire women and NO desire women. If a women has no desire, then she is FRIDGID to me. That is different from the women who has LOW desire.
I will try to refrain from this term, although I sure feels correct.
But what about my other question? How clearly have you told her your feelings about this problem? Has she read on this board? Do you talk about it? What happens when you do?
It never goes well. She always takes it wrong, like there is something wrong with her(which of course there is). She really does not care if she ever has sex again, even though she enjoys it when she does. She now claims to not love me and to not be attracted to me. Funny, tough some of her friends would love to jump my bones. She looks for reasons to blame ME. Let's face it, many women lose their sex drives and just flat out have nop clue as to why. I have read Dr. Harley's site and he has dozens of letters from women that have NO DESIRE, and have no clue as to why. It is not unusual. Dr. Harley says that 90% of the couples he treats have women with desire that is WAY to low. It seems that women ask for 2/3 of all divorces, probably because they have grown apart emotionally from their husbands. But if a woman loses here sex drive, SHE HAS TO EXPECT THAT HER HUSBAND WILL STOP MEETING HER NEEDS. A man can only go so long without getting his needs met before he basically starts ignoring his wife!
In my wifes case, her own mother is pretty "Bitchy". My wife also moved out of her natuaral mothers house and moved into another families house when she was 16 and the family she lived with have not had sex in 40+ years. She also has friends that have sexless marriages, so she thinks that MANY couples have sexless marriages and survive OK.
