I am more afraid of the rejection, to be honest. If you even bring it up, it will almost be objectionable, sex is not something you want to dissect to a woman....because then she will always remember it afterwards and it will take out the romantic and passionate atmosphere.
I say if you are not ready for it, then focus on tender, caring, almost paternal feelings while doing the massage.
I will tell you something I think is true in many women: even when my H is not moving in bed, trying to fight his feelings, I can tell when he wants to ML. His breathing pattern, the way he swallows, even a faint masculine smell that emanates from him - they are unmistakable. It actually turns me on so much. He acknolwedged that I know him so well that I can read him that way - I was always right on the dot.
You will not be able to hide it Bolt, so work on not having it in the first place. The urge, I mean.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go