Your fear is showing, habit. And it has become a habit, just like your name, and thus the sitch is frozen in place because of it.
You have to start envisioning what life would be like without her, what are the things you truly want in life if it were not dependent upon your W.
Is there anything that you can do with regards to your job? Your home? Your kids? Do you have a dream that is unfulfilled, not having to do with your W but with regards to personal goals?
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
