Ok, OM is going to be VERY, VERY dangerous right now. It is of paramount importance that you play your hand like there is a billion dollar pot at stake. You can do or say things that can draw your W in or do or say things that will send her back to OM. This time, though, he'll have the heat turned up.
So... you know that impatience thing that comes up sometimes? Don't let it burn you. (I probably should take my own advice). This is not a straight line back (see Bolt) and a few stumbling blocks will litter your path you along the way. Watch out for them. You want your W and your M. Remember that. Even during the frustrating times, you want your W and you want your M...
Thanks LIS! You are right with all of that. I'm still struggling with patience. That's why I was kicking myself after giving my W the biz card with the note before she called me. I thought that my impatience had just bit me in the a$s. I gotta keep it in check.
I'm not so worried about OM right now, but I recognize that he is still lurking. I think that, like others have pointed out, I am competing against myself. And, as you have pointed out, I really, really need to maintain the NEW Denver at all times.
I thought about the 'plan' for piecing and reconciliation that you brought up the other night. I'm not sure that i have a specific plan. But, this is what I think:
1) I am SO excited to begin that process and to start showing W that she has the H that she has always wanted and deserved. I'm just really excited to do get going on that. And I have no doubt that I am that person now.
2) I am very, VERY motivated to not only get my W to commit to our M again, but to get her to completely and utterly fall back in love with me. I haven't been motivated to do this with a woman since college.
I think that this is a good start?
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
