Thanks Figg. It is really difficult to not be there for her when I see her in pain. That is a natural response of mine when it comes to her. I am a lover, and I console. Right now, I need not to be a lover. She is not loving me. I am having a hard time with the console bit. I have told her that I will always be there for her. Maybe I shouldn't have.

Her parents are giving her a much harder time than I am concerning the situation from what I understand. Instead of consoling her, I should probably just let her get through that herself. That is just very difficult to do for me.

I can detach and try not to be so needy. I understand the logic of pushing and pulling. I still want to be friendly with her. When she wants to have dinner out, I should do that but keep it fun and casual.

Me - 33 W - 33
S - 9 months
M - 3 years
T - 5.5 years
Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY
PA discovered - 1/18/11
PA began - 3/22/10
Separated